More Time for the People I Love #COVID-19!

Omar and Roxanne Genas are a breath of fresh love! Married for 4 years and 10 months, the two love birds have an energetic one year old, Josiah and are elated to have more time together at home as a result of the COVID-19 health crisis. Family and Faith Magazine is pleased to share their wonderful love story and positive perspective in this challenging season.

We asked Roxanne, a stay at home mom and entrepreneur what she loves most about Omar.

Roxanne: He is a real man. A fighter for our dreams. A man that stands on principles and follows through on his commitments. I can count on him to get things done. He loves God and I admire his desire to keep getting closer to God.

I love that he is completely selfless and committed. I remember when I was pregnant, he showed up to every single doctor’s appointment I had. I thought that was normal but when my doctor and I had a little chit chat she told me that I really have a great husband because he’s shown up to the appointments and other women would be so happy to have that.

From day one Omar has been a true gentleman and that has continued to this very day in our marriage. It may seem small, but he opens doors for me, pulls my chair out at a table and holds my hands when we’re out together. Even though our son is a year old we’re still adjusting to life with the addition to our family, and with that he has taken on a second job which begins in the night in caring for Jo. Almost every night Omar carries out Jo’s bedtime routine and handles the night time feedings. I’m truly blessed
to have a partner like him.

Omar is extremely supportive. He is my biggest cheer leader. No matter what I set my heart to achieve, he’s right beside me encouraging and cheering me along.

Another thing I love about Omar is that he is a joy to be around. He will make you laugh even though some of his jokes are corny but I get them!

A Systems Administrator at a major financial institution, Family & Faith Magazine posed the same question to Omar, who also gushed about his love for Roxanne:

Omar: The first thing that attracted me to Roxanne was her intellect. Scratch that, that’s the second thing. The first was that she was smoking hot! We attended college together and I always held the view, even to this day, that if I cannot have a decent non superficial conversation with a woman, then there’s no way I would marry her. There was never a superficial moment in our relationship. Our courting was unconventional. I love her intellect and the fact that we could reason/argue on several controversial
topics ranging from religion, finances, relationship roles, sex and family.

I highlighted religion first because when we started courting, my wife was an ACTIVE member in the church. As for me, I considered myself to be an atheist. I remember always asking her tough questions about her God because I could not fathom how an intellect like her could believe in a God as was portrayed by the church and the Bible. Roxanne held her ground and although my points seemed valid to ME, she refused to capitulate her belief under the strain of my questions rooted in disbelief. But that
was it, it was MY disbelief, not hers. She invited me to the religious institution she called church and I reluctantly attended. Suffice it to say, I realised that I was the fool in thinking I know more about the God, faith and belief and she was and is as wise as King Solomon BECAUSE she believes. She’s an independent thinker and I will always appreciate that (sometimes it annoys me though. Lol)

Another trait I admire in Roxanne is the dedication she shows to the people whom she calls “friend”. Friendship for her is very sacred and she will go above and beyond once you have proved that you have her best interest at heart because for her it’s a heart matter. I remember when she was planning a baby shower and the lengths she went through to ensure that it was perfect, one would think she was planning a gala for the Prime Minister. Ashamedly I would OFTEN fall asleep while she toils through the
night on a project only to wake in the morning to either see her STILL working, or to see the living room littered with project materials whether it be cartridge paper, balloons or some glitter. But that is it. When she commits, she COMMITS.

Family & Faith Magazine: How has your marriage or family been affected by the COVID-19 crisis?

Roxanne: Omar would sometimes work from home once per week and I would look forward to that day so with this Covid-19 crisis I’m happy he has the ability to work from home. Even though he’s working I know for sure that he’s safe and Josiah and I (mostly Josiah) can pop in on him. I know for sure that Josiah loves having his daddy home more often, daddy is his playmate because I cannot handle the rough playing that he loves.

Omar: To piggyback on what Roxanne just said, the best part about this crisis for me is the ability it gives me to spend more time with the people I love. I love when Josiah wakes up to see me. He greets me with a big smile showing his four little pegs. I love making breakfast for my wife and being present to serve them however I can. There’s nothing more important to me than my family and if I could permanently work from home, I would be a happy camper.

Family & Faith Magazine: What are you doing to keep your family’s spirits up during this crisis?

Omar & Roxanne: Our business is centred around plant based nutritional supplements and environmentally friendly cleaning and disinfectant cleaners so we are not worried. We have been on our vitamins and we also practice proper hygiene and maintain a healthy distance from others especially during this time. At home we go for walks or we have a break for play time with Josiah.

Family & Faith Magazine: Do you have any relational challenges working from home especially with the added responsibility of a baby?

Roxanne: We love it! No complaints on my end after all I got married to spend my life and time with my husband. So with him not having to commute to and from work five days per week and work 40-50 hours weekly this is a welcomed change. It also eases some of the pressure on me in caring for Josiah. When I need to complete a task or need a break to rest, Omar fills in for me. The only challenge that we’ve encountered is that because Josiah and I have a routine, when he sees daddy that routine gets
thrown out the door because he wants to play and be in what daddy is doing. That can be distracting especially when Omar has critical and time sensitive tasks to get done.

Omar: Not at all. Roxanne alluded to the fact that family is one of our highest values and we got married to spend our life together. Too often husbands and wives spend more time at work than they do at
home with their family and that in itself could be problematic because an experience is something that cannot be explained fully, it has to be experienced. Therefore, when a husband has a shared experience
with another coworker and vice versa, then terms such as “work husband” and “work wife” start to emerge. Being home now affords us to spend more time together. If I have a deadline, I hide from Jo to complete it.

Family & Faith Magazine: If, yes, how are you overcoming those challenges?

Omar & Roxanne: In overcoming that challenge I would take Jo into another room to engage him or battle with him to go to sleep.


Family & Faith Magazine: Do you have any other comment you would like to share regarding how your family is coping in the crisis.


Omar & Roxanne: Since the crisis began we have seen people joke (some are serious) about spending too much time with their families. But this is a time for us to get back to basics and focus on what really matters and God’s design for the family. As parents we have a duty to instill the right values and fear of God in our children, so with the extra time together let us draw closer to our Maker and each other.

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God’s Woman provides strong dose of empowerment

Family & Faith Magazine’s Founder & Editorial Director, Shelly-Ann Harris has a released a strong dose of empowerment for women of faith in these challenging times.

Leaning on examples from amazing women in scripture coupled with her own inspirational personal experiences, Harris provides insights and strategies for overcoming challenges in the easy to read 7-chapter publication published by Breadknife Productions.

Writing this book has been an enriching and therapeutic journey for me personally. I hope it will enrich other women and empower them to face whatever life throws at them with confidence,” Harris said.

Here is one reader’s review:

Worry woke me up tonight. There are so many things happening in my life and in the world that I find it hard to sleep through the night. Scrolling through my phone I found this. And for the last hour I have been filling myself with its wisdom and truth. I believe that God sent this book as a gift to me. I am going to close my eyes and go back to sleep in peace, knowing that he has my back.” – GB

The e-book and paperback are available on Amazon.com.

Shelly-Ann has also authored the following publications:

40 Agreements on Becoming 40

The Goodies on Her Tray (poetry collection)

We Don’t Hate Mondays Anymore (children’s book)

Born in Kingston Jamaica, Shelly-Ann is a passionate woman of faith who uses various platforms to share empowering stories of victory and hope for all people, especially women.

I Miss School

Zoe-Marie and Sarah-Rene Harris share their stories.

I really miss school. It was so much fun, but Coronavirus is making everything boring.

At school, I would always go on the playground after lunch time. We also got candy when we answered questions correctly in class!

I had lots of friends to play with. We played boys versus girls – it was so much fun! We use to play hide and seek, ‘mamma lashi’ and other things! Now we have to stay home because of the Coronavirus.

At least I can see my friends on Zoom when we have classes online.

Still, home isn’t that bad though. When I finish my work I can go on the phone or play with my baby sister, which is fun!

Sarah-Rene is 9 years old

I had just started high school and was finally settling down when a pandemic was declared and all schools were shut down.

At first I was happy for the break so I could catch 2 extra hours of sleep in the
morning!

Although I can wake up later now and wear my own comfortable clothes, I miss many things about school.

Plus I prefer learning in school rather than online classes because my teachers make me want to learn.

But I mostly miss interacting with my friends and I hope that Corona doesn’t infect anymore people so that everyone can go back to their normal lives.

One thing I really enjoy about being at home though is getting to eat way more food and spending more time with my mom who has to work from home.

Zoe-Marie Harris is 12 years old

Making up with that estranged loved one

With the ongoing health crisis worldwide, many people are forced to slow down, avoid public gatherings and possibly work from home if possible. But some can’t stand the slowing pace of life or being at home because now without the busyness of normal activities, they can now more acutely feel the numbing pain of a broken relationship or friendship. They feel the emptiness, loss and hurt of not being in fellowship with someone very special.

Whether you are the person who was hurt or the one who did the hurting, Family and Faith Magazine is pleased to share some practical insights on how to restore a broken relationship. We spoke with the extremely knowledgeable and experienced Dr. Barry Davidson, respected Christian counselor and CEO of Family Life Ministries, who told us about some of the key elements for reconciliation – forgiveness, remorse and rebuilding trust.

Have you truly forgiven the person who hurt you?

Forgiveness is perhaps the most frequently discussed issue when it comes to restoring relationships. Maybe because it is something the Lord Jesus has required of believers: “Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.” (Ephesians 4:32). To carry out this command, some persons say that forgiveness is simply a decision that we make based on obedience to God’s word. But how can you know when you have truly forgiven someone? According to Dr. Davidson, true forgiveness happens when the person who was hurt is in a position to wish the offender well. He also told Family and Faith Magazine what he considers to be the ‘5 truths about forgiveness’.

  1. Forgiveness is an act of the will. It is not just something in your head; you have made up your mind and are willing to forgive.
  2. Forgiveness is very costly. It cost Jesus His life, it is going to cost you your pride. Most times, the victim wants to see that person (who hurt them) suffer, so to really decide that you don’t want them to suffer is costly in that sense.
  3. Forgiveness should be expressed verbally and specifically. You need to be able to say to the person ‘I forgive you’ and tell them exactly what you are forgiving them for.
  4. Forgiveness is not conditional, so you are not going to say to the person ‘I forgive you if you promise me that you will never do this again.’
  5. Forgiveness is not impossible. ‘I can’t forgive you’ really means ‘I won’t forgive you.’

Nevertheless forgiveness is only one aspect of reconciliation. Another important part is rebuilding trust, which Dr. Davidson maintains is the responsibility of the offender. “You have to forgive in order to be healed of hurt, in order to be in a position to be reconciled. But you don’t have to trust after you have forgiven the person, you may, but your forgiveness can be sincere even if you don’t trust the person,” he explained. He warned that if you have forgiven someone who is not trustworthy and you begin to trust that person again; you are exposing yourself to danger for which reconciliation becomes almost impossible. “A common mistake that pastors make is that they equate trust with forgiveness…but trust is something that is earned. (With regards to) the person who cheated or the person who physically abused his wife (for example), for her to stupidly trust him back in her space would indeed stupid,” Dr. Davidson admonished.

“So what we professionals do is that we encourage the forgiveness because unforgiveness affects the person who needs to forgive more than the person who needs to be forgiven. But we say to that person that that aspect of trust is not your responsibility, it is that person who offended you; it is their responsibility to earn back that trust.”

Dr. Davidson added that the offender needs to work on themselves; grow, heal and change in order to make themselves trustworthy and be in a position to be back in the victim’s space again. “Because what has happened in the past is that we have had people who are abusers; and they physically abuse their partners and they are very remorseful (but they are in) the cycle of abuse; they are remorseful, they want to make up and you make up and they start it again and it has a tendency of getting even worse and we have seen people who have actually died. So what we are saying to people is, yes you have forgiven however this person has to earn back the trust; this person has to be sincere, genuinely remorseful, genuinely sorry, genuinely repentant and really put in the work to be trustworthy again and that’s when you can experience total, real reconciliation.”

Come back soon for tips on how to rebuild trust in your relationship!

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Parenting Kids in Times of Crisis

Imported COVID-19 cases are now in Jamaica and families need to grapple with how to equip children during these times of uncertainty. As a parent of 4, I believe one of the first things is to do is model the behaviours that we want to see. So if I want my daughters to wash their hands properly with soap and water, I must do my best to model that behaviour. If I want them to practice exemplary personal hygiene, keep their surroundings clean, avoid touching their face and so on, I too must be doing the same. I must practice what I preach. Social distancing may be a little more difficult to implement and enforce but should be done as we would normally do when someone has the regular flu or conjunctivitis.

The health crisis facing the world also presents an opportunity for parents to talk about factors in this life that are out of our control. It’s a real life lesson that can serve children well when they get older and things happen that they didn’t plan for. We can’t panic and go into hiding. We must pray, plan and process the situation and take actions rooted in wisdom. Fear is never a useful or productive response. The scripture has strong encouragement for moments like these: “Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. 7 And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 4:6)

From this scripture we can glean at least 2 actions:

1. We should encourage our children to pray instead of worrying. Make praying a habit so that it doesn’t seem odd in times when you really need God and to be surrounded by His peace.

2. We should encourage them to find things to be thankful for – this puts their minds in a positive place and increases their faith in God’s track record. They can begin to have thoughts like – if God has done it before, He will do it again. He has kept us in times of trouble before and He can keep us again.

Let us as parents also model this behaviour of faith in these difficult times.

Through Water or Fire – I am an Overcomer!

Through Water or Fire – I am an Overcomer is the empowering theme for the Christmas Documentary Edition of Family and Faith Magazine! 

Sponsored by the Jamaica Broilers Group and Breadknife Productions, the Magazine shares two inspiring testimonies of Christian women who have overcome tremendous challenges.

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Nicole Lalor Ingram

Nicole Lalor Ingram, a project manager by profession, is fully healed today following a terrifying diagnosis. “I was diagnosed with a CSF leak which the condition where the fluid would leak from the brain so …once that leaks out then the brain starts sagging in the back of the neck,” Nicole explained to Family and Faith Magazine.

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Nadine Blair

The second testimony comes from Jamaican media personality, singer, author, the well known and loved Nadine Blair. Nadine shared with Family and Faith Magazine a surprising long time struggle with not feeling good enough. “It took me years to come to a place of accepting me for who I am. I am black, I am dark skinned and I have big nose and big forehead. It was a real struggle growing up,” the gospel sensation confessed.

Both women shared exciting testimonies of how God’s power and grace have helped them to overcome their personal struggles.

This Edition of Family and Faith Magazine also features exciting gospel trio Levy’s Heritage which is made up of the talented children of Jamaican gospel veteran, Lubert Levy. Oshin, Ovando and Oneil Levy shared their refreshing journey as young Christians in ministry.

President and Founder of Family and Faith Magazine, Shelly-Ann Harris wants viewers to be encouraged and gain strength to overcome their own life challenges.

“We wanted to showcase the power of the Christ of Christmas in empowering believers to overcome difficult circumstances. We hope the Magazine will give the urgent and important gift of hope on this wonderful day and throughout this blessed season,” she said.

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Contemplating Abortion, Husband and Wife Needs & Believing Better this Easter!

Welcome to our stories of light and hope for the Easter Season! Learning to believe better, the primary needs of a husband and wife, gender roles and abortion are the main issues we explore this Easter.

Holy Scripture tells us that marriage is a mysterious reflection of Christ and his bride, the church. That is certainly why men are asked to love their wives like Christ loves the church, and women to submit to their husbands. So, this Easter we hope to strengthen marriages by going back to basics with understanding the primary needs of a husband and wife with renowned family counselor, Dr. Barry Davidson. There is a lot to glean and share with your spouse!

Women are Good, Men are Great? is my blog feature that you may find interesting (or unsettling) as we join the layered conversation around gender roles.

Now every time there was an account of the mass abortion of babies in Scripture, the mission was an attempt to kill God’s plan for the birth of a deliverer. The subject doesn’t have a good rap in Scripture. This Easter we connect with Specialist Biomedical Scientist originally from Nigeria, now living and working in the UK, Ms. Obianuju Ekeocha to get her perspective on the controversial human rights issue, which has consumed Jamaica’s attention in recent months.

Ms. Ekeocha is also the founder and president of Culture of Life Africa, an organisation dedicated to the promotion of a Culture of Life in Africa through research, education and the dissemination of information. She is an internationally acclaimed pro-life speaker, strategist, author and documentary filmmaker who has studied, worked and travelled extensively in Africa.

Ms. Ekeocha says: “My convictions about abortion are rooted in science and biological facts rather than faith.”

Check it out!

And finally, we are delighted by the encouragement from Family and Faith Magazine longtime contributor, Pastor Christopher Brodber in Believe Better Things – Believe God! 

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May God’s light and hope radiate afresh in your life this season.

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Believe Better Things – Believe God!

I try to encourage people wherever I go to join me in a little gesture – raise your index finger in the air, with attitude, and say aloud, “I Believe God.” I do this because I am fully aware that the biggest daily battle people face is the battle to believe better; to believe better things, about ourselves and about our Creator.

In what is a hostile information-age, there is a deluge of destructive notions being sent people’s way.  There is information that often poses as ‘life-improvement’ concepts, which is really rooted in fear, in human frailty, in notions of scarce resources, in greed, etc. Therefore, I’ll stir individuals to believe better, based on an understanding that the best things in life are freely given to all, by the Creator of all. The supplier of ample air, ample water, sunlight, and natural resources, amply supplies whatever we’ll need for a good-life.

And this truth is why there is Easter.

I know you, whoever is reading this, that you too are in the throes of a bitter belief-battle, either about yourself, about this world, or about the Creator, just like the rest of us. So, let’s talk about Easter and the Resurrection of Jesus of Nazareth and its relevance to our lives.

I am aware that information might have come to you that Easter had a “pagan origin” and therefore it’s not of true Christian merit. However, I counter that with an example – Though evil things happened in the world on my birthday, yet I still choose to celebrate my birthday – meaning we should still celebrate a good thing, despite ‘evil things.’ Also, God remains sovereign over all times. Recall also that I said there’s an all-out war of notions, focused against our believing good things, in this world that stokes fear and offers lies. (Like Santa Clause, promoted instead of a Good God and Christ, at Christmas, that “knows if you’ve been good or bad”.) Know this, that the Christian celebration of Easter is from God, and it is a good “tool” to ground our hope, and our faith in eternal things, as opposed to fragile temporal things.

Jesus of Nazareth’s dying on Calvary’s Cross, celebrated on Good Friday, and His being raised to life, celebrated on Easter Sunday / Resurrection Sunday, provide all persons a signal of God’s good intentions toward all men (as it is written “…goodwill toward men.” Luke 2:14). The Heavenly Father made His message clear, that this Jesus is His Son, and He was sent to save the world – “For God So loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life” – John 3:16.

This salvation, this message of rescue, that God signals, is dynamic and holistic. It is not just deliverance from the threat of eternal damnation, after death, but it is a rescue from all turmoil of the human soul. It marks a deliverance unto an amazing hope. The Easter celebration arms all who believe with a powerful hope, and a wonderful confidence, second to none.

Recall that the apparent greatest fear that people have is of death. Therefore, it is written that God “…delivered them who through fear of death were all their lifetime subject to bondage” – Hebrews 2:15. So, the Father answers this global fear through His Son. Jesus’ death shows God as familiar with the issue of death and our fear, and displays that an answer was sent.

Jesus’ resurrection from the dead, shows that God is capable and willing to raise individuals from death, and He’s giving them His hope and confidence. The resurrection displays the Father offering men a better life now, and then (after life).

It is a profound promise of better to all who would believe, even unto joyful celebration. The resurrection of Jesus certainly gives us all a ‘partying’ purpose.  “…And this is the will of Him that sent me, that everyone which seeth the son, and believeth on Him, may have everlasting life: and I will raise him up at the last day” – John 6:40. This assurance, this confidence in God, is super liberating.

Note that every human being needs faith and hope. Hope is a life-giving, purpose-driving virtue, and faith is a spiritual drive to always press forward. So, the message of Easter: “You don’t need to fear anything. I the Lord have made what was once scary, become for you an awesome opportunity.”

Today all are free not to fear. We’re no longer bound to live in fear, in this world of fears. So now, what will you do, since you can be fear-free? Say with me too, “I Believe God!”

Now, the whole world is an awaiting adventure.

Happy Easter!

Pastor Christopher Brodber is the pastor of Covenant City Church and a long-time contributor to Family and Faith Magazine. Leave a reply or send an email to familyandfaithmagazine@gmail.com 

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“My convictions about abortion are rooted in science & biological facts rather than faith” – Obianuju Ekeocha

Recently there has been a call by a Member of Parliament for the Jamaican Government to repeal legislation that makes abortion illegal. This has sparked a vociferous debate among various civil society and church groups in Jamaica. If we are to go by the recent Don Anderson poll however, it would appear that most Jamaicans are still against the idea, with 75% saying no to legalizing abortion.

This Easter, Family & Faith Magazine take counsel from an expert outside of our shores – a Specialist Biomedical Scientist originally from Nigeria now living and working in the UK – Ms. Obianuju Ekeocha.

Family and Faith Magazine: What is your position on abortion and what are the factors that led to that position?

Obianuju Ekeocha: I am against abortion because I believe that the first and foundational human right is the right to life of every human being at every stage and phase of development. Abortion (whether done legally or illegal) violates that right.

Family and Faith Magazine: A good Christian friend of mine shared with me recently that after understanding the excruciating struggles of a family member who was pregnant with her third child, she helped her to secure an abortion. The reasons were largely due to the woman’s age (she was an older woman) and financial and emotional inability to take care of another child. Do you think there is ever an acceptable reason for abortion?

Obianuju Ekeocha: There is no acceptable reason for abortion just as there isn’t any acceptable reason to kill a toddler, not even in the most desperate circumstance, not even if a parent is poor, homeless, jobless, no one will think it a compassionate solution to kill their little child. This is because we understand the inviolable principle of right to life.

I am not going to make light of desperate situations that many pregnant women may find themselves in. Crisis pregnancy is a very real problem, but what the community around a woman in crisis pregnancy must tackle and remove is the crisis rather than the pregnancy. The community should focus on finding a way to solve the financial difficulty, family instability or any number of other difficulties that may be constituting the crisis. What must not be done is to kill an innocent unborn baby which is already a unique irreplaceable human.

 Family and Faith Magazine: Even if you oppose abortion from a moral or spiritual perspective, why should those with a different view be criminalized for having the procedure?

Obianuju Ekeocha: It is true that I am Christian, and I love my faith, I try to live my faith and I love and serve God.

However, my convictions about abortion are rooted in science and biological facts rather than faith. We are living in an era of cutting-edge science and medical advancement. Perhaps 50 years ago some people may have convincingly claimed that the baby in the womb was a blob of tissue, so an abortion is just like removing a mass of tissue and blood from the womb, but that has been thoroughly debunked by medical science. We have sonograms that allow us to hear the heartbeat of the unborn baby in the womb, we have 2D, 3D and 4D ultrasound technology that allows us to see the baby. This is how we know that from even the first trimester the baby has recognizable arms, legs, fingers and toes.

I am a Specialist Biomedical Scientist in the area of Haematology, we are able to run tests while a woman is pregnant to accurately determine her baby’s blood group.

So, the question is, what does an abortion entail if it’s not just “cleaning the womb”?

Abortion entails killing a gestating baby by either poisoning it, or cutting off its supply of nourishment, or at a later stage in pregnancy cut the baby into pieces. This is inhumane and it should be rejected in every country in the world by people of all faiths and no faith at all.

Family and Faith Magazine: Even if ‘pro-lifers’ and ‘pro-choicers’ don’t agree on the ‘right or wrong’ of abortion, isn’t abortion a personal health care issue – is there a reason for the state to get involved?

Obianuju Ekeocha: Abortion is not healthcare because the core aim of healthcare is to preserve life and preserve health for both the mother and her unborn baby. Whether pro-life or pro-choice everyone instinctively should know what healthcare for a pregnant woman really looks like. She goes to a prenatal clinic, she is examined by a doctor, nurse or midwife, her baby’s heartbeat is perhaps monitored, her own heartbeat and pulse are checked and she gets all the medical support and advice that will help preserve her life as well as her baby’s who is in fact the second patient. If something goes wrong due to the neglect of careless by the gynecology healthcare professionals, there should be consequences. We all understand this. So it is only a logical step from this understanding to all of us acknowledging that any direct procedure that seeks to end the life of the baby in the womb can never be truthfully described as “healthcare” because it goes against every underlying principle of healthcare which really is to preserve health and life of the patients even the ones in the womb!

Family and Faith Magazine: What is your advice to women’s groups in Jamaica about the decriminalization of abortion?

Obianuju Ekeocha: Every woman has the maternal-protective instinct. So, women by nature are meant to be fierce and valiant protectors of babies and children. We should cherish and nurture life especially the most fragile and vulnerable.

Abortion goes against nature (as it violently destroys life), but even beyond that, abortion goes against the natural femininity instinct to nurture life especially at the most vulnerable stage of development- in the womb.

My advice and appeal to women’s groups in Jamaica is for them to rise to full stature and defend the most vulnerable. In my travels, I have had the privilege of speaking with so many women and listening to the most inspiring life-experiences, I have listened to women-war-survivors, I have talked with women who chose life in crisis pregnancy situations, I have conversed with poor women as well as rich women. This is what I learnt – that women are much more resilient, valiant, heroic and courageous than the world has given us credit for in the past. We are able to survive crisis situations, we are able to thrive even in adversity, we are able to empathize and console the wounded, we sow peace in time of war, and we are able to heal communities.

Abortion is not in any way consistent with our nature as it kills the weakest among us (the unborn children), it destroys relationships, breaks family trees and leaves the deepest and ugliest scars in the hearts, lives and homes of so many.

Abortion is very bad when it is illegal, but it is catastrophic and calamitous when any nation embraces it and legalizes it.

Women should be at the forefront of fighting against this horrific practice. I hope the Jamaican women will stand in valiant defense of Jamaica’s precious unborn babies.

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More About Obianuju Ekeocha  @obianuju

Obianuju Ekeocha is a Nigerian woman, living and working in the United Kingdom as a Specialist Biomedical Scientist.

She is also the founder and president of Culture of Life Africa, an organisation dedicated to the promotion of a Culture of Life in Africa through research, education and the dissemination of information.

She is an internationally acclaimed pro-life speaker, strategist, author and documentary filmmaker who has studied, worked and travelled extensively in Africa.

She is the author of Target Africa: Ideological Neocolonialism of the Twenty-First Century and the Executive Producer of the new documentary Strings Attached.

Obianuju has advised many African, European and North American legislators and policy makers on issues concerning African women’s health, social issues, youth, family, healthcare, foreign aid, education, and culture.

Obianuju she has so far spoken and worked in more than 45 cities in 18 different countries around the world. She has been welcomed as a guest speaker at many high-profile meetings and events including policy briefings at the White House, the US State Department, the European Parliament and a number of Parliaments in Africa, Europe and North America.

Ms Ekeocha has been featured by numerous broadcast networks, including BBC television and radio.

Her passion and privilege is to continue to work in defense of the sanctity and dignity of life within Culture.

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What Husbands & Wives Need From Each Other

Did you know that one of the main reasons people go to see a counsellor is to solve a marital conflict?

How is your marriage doing and what are your relationship goals?

This Easter, Family and Faith Magazine takes you to marriage counselling with no less than renowned marriage counsellor and CEO of Family Life Ministries, Dr. Barry Davidson, who reveals that 40% of engaged couples who come to see him eventually decide not to get married. 40%. Wow, 40%! It’s certainly not an easy road.

But it also means that 60% are prepared for the journey and to get the tools they need to succeed. Part of that help involves understanding the needs of your spouse.

Dr. Davidson explains that a happy marriage is where you have needs fulfillment; where both husband and wife understand and strive to meet each other’s needs.

So, what are those needs?

“What husbands will tell you is that if their wife initiates lovemaking it has the ability to transform a mundane black and white existence into living glorious technicolour and so that is a very important need for most husbands.”

“(A wife) she needs to have a husband who is going to play his part in providing financially and assisting the family financially not necessarily to make more money than her but she wants him to pull his weight because she doesn’t want to think she has a big son.”

For the complete list of 5 primary needs of a wife and husband, listen to Dr. Davidson’s interview with Family and Faith Magazine below and tell us your thoughts!

Dr. Davidson has talked a lot about needs and expectation, listing what can and should be done to sweeten a normal marriage relationship, but what about those relationships that are not quite normal? Family and Faith Magazine asked the family counsellor if any marriage beset by any issue could be saved?

Here is what he said.

Do you agree?

Share your experiences by leaving a reply or send an email to familyandfaithmagazine@gmail.com

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